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“I was in the Navy at the time and had been married for a little over five years. I was currently on shore duty, so there were no deployments or anything in the previous year. Things weren’t the best in the marriage, but things seemed to be holding up…or so I thought. We were planning a week-long road trip with my friend, who was also my supervisor. Many of us in the shop were into brewing and were planning get there as quickly as possible. “As many craft breweries as we could. Right before the trip, we had a big argument and she was all over my friend. She became a grade A group and we ended up separated at the end of the night.”
“She stayed at our mutual friend’s house, where the meeting was, and I headed to our house (a block or so away). The next morning, she tells me: ‘I don’t love you like that anymore.’ same way’. and I have feelings about your friend’s speech. At that time, we were all angry and I told him to go out and do whatever he wanted. So, they went on a trip while I stayed home and dealt with my anger. I had some time to think about things and realized that the relationship had gone downhill and I pretty much reached a level of acceptance.
At the end of the week they return. He’s sitting there tearfully apologizing, she explains that she didn’t mean to and I’m about to ‘take your shit and leave’, that’s how the night ended. Next Monday we both return to work. He’s still my supervisor, so we’re dealing with that. Our superiors were informed what was happening and offered to transfer one of us, but we declined. We decided that home was home and work was work, and we would let them know if that changed.
Now for the fun! The divorce began. In California, at that time, there was basically a six-month period between filing and completion. We worked together all that time and even attended functions at other friends’ houses, etc. Overall, the divorce was amicable, as we both realized there was no hope in trying to keep them together. Heck, for most of that period, most of our coworkers still had no idea what had happened. We prevented it from becoming a big topic of conversation.
Some of the key, fun things that happened during those six months: She called and asked if they could have the dresser I was saving so she could have the matching set. I said yes, but he needed a dresser, so they cleaned out the one he had and we just changed it. I bought a car that needed towing, so I borrowed her truck to take it home overnight and we swapped cars for the day. Once they started planning a wedding, she found out that her brother wasn’t going to be able to attend, so they asked me to be a stand-in for the best man in case she couldn’t get someone else. Yes really. Another person volunteered. I looked after their house while they went on their honeymoon. She took the dog and I was able to take care of him without any problems, so I did. Her mother had moved in with us earlier that year and she still lived at my house for another two months after the divorce was final.
Shortly after his wedding, he was transferred to another ship, so I have no idea what happened after that. We were lucky not to have children, so there was no reason to talk again. I haven’t talked to them since (that was 1995). I couldn’t even tell you where they live today. So, I went through the period of betrayal/loss of trust, but I finally got over it and am now happily married (about to turn 25). A good learning experience.”
-Anonymous