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He is a loving partner, a good father, and lies to me about smoking marijuana. He says it’s my fault he sneaks away. I try to ignore him, but it’s hard when he gets out of bed to get high. What do you suggest?
Disgusted: You have to admit that if you didn’t object to your husband’s use of marijuana, he probably wouldn’t take it on the sly. If he switched to gummies (instead of smoking), it would alleviate one of his objections: the pungent smell.
There is a fairly common belief that marijuana is not addictive, but you claim that your husband can’t seem to get through the day without using cannabis. The drug’s effect on any person varies widely, depending on a number of factors, including the amount of THC in the dose and the health and age of the user, as well as whether they take prescription medications, drink alcohol, or use other drugs. in addition to marijuana.
He Center for Disease Control and Prevention cites a study that states that “about 3 in 10 people who use marijuana have a marijuana use disorder… meaning they cannot stop using marijuana even though it is causing social and health problems in their lives.” lives”. Her husband may have marijuana use disorder, marijuana dependence, or maybe he just loves being high all the time.
Due to the increasing and common use of marijuana and the sometimes challenging issues that marijuana use poses among loved ones, “friends and family” support groups have emerged to offer support to people affected by other people’s marijuana use. person. mar-anon.com runs on a 12-step model and is associated with Marijuana Anonymous (marijuana-anonymous.org). Zoom meetings are available daily, and these and in-person meetings are listed on the organization’s website.
I recommend that you do your best to stop monitoring your husband’s marijuana use and detach yourself from his behavior so that you can separate your own choices from your anger at his decisions.
Dear Amy: My question is certainly not life-threatening, but it is driving me crazy. I was married for 10 years, divorced for 13, and happily remarried for seven. My first marriage was annulled after the divorce. Recently, my wife found my old wedding ring while she was cleaning out a junk drawer. I thought she disappeared years ago.
I told him I didn’t want it and that we had to get rid of it. She says she should take him to a pawn shop. I have two great children from my first marriage, but other than that, the ring represents 10 years of acrimony and chaos. I’m a lapsed Catholic, but the symbolism is still important to me, so I don’t see how to put the ring back into circulation.
He wanted to hire a Hobbit to drag the ring across Mordor and throw it into the Lake of Fire. My wife says we can’t afford a Hobbit and that’s why I need to come up with another plan. What is the best way to take care of this?
Superstitious: I love the idea of a Hobbit for hire, who could take all the material things that provoke feelings of shame or sadness and take them to the Lake of Fire. (Or to Frodo’s Pawn Shop in the Shire Mall.) (And while I’m probably short enough to apply for the Hobbit job, I identify more in the Elfen category.)
You and your wife could think of a deeply symbolic act that would transform this ring into something else, perhaps melting it down and making an amulet. But that is expensive and time-consuming. I like the idea of throwing your ring in the stream. Give it a big boost. I did it once and it certainly worked for me.
Dear Amy: “in a bad place“She said her husband is angry and isolated. She should take him for a medical evaluation. Her personality changes indicate that she could have the onset of dementia.
Two cents: It wasn’t clear that the husband’s personality had changed, but I agree that a medical evaluation is a good idea.
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