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Have you found the woman of your dreams and want to be sure she knows it? It is natural for a man to want to make the woman he loves happy. But it is common for a man to not know what to say or do to make sure that she knows what is best in her life. What women want tends to be different from what men would prefer, so knowing what nice things to say to your girlfriend isn’t necessarily something most men understand on an intuitive level. I can tell you this: most women love communication. They love to give, receive and share.
Men don’t always understand the importance of this, or they may not have much experience communicating so openly, so they often keep their mouths shut because they don’t know what to say. If you want to know some nice things to say to your girlfriend so she knows she’s the best thing in your life, let me help you!
Here are 5 cute things to say to your girlfriend that will let her know she is the best thing in your life:
1. “I don’t know what to do.”
One time, my boyfriend and I were arguing about something. I’m not sure what. I stormed out of the room and he didn’t follow me. I was pacing around my room, angry about whatever we were fighting, when he came in and said, “I don’t know what to do.” These words instantly dispelled my anger.
He had no idea what to do, and instead of staying silent or trying to fix things or stay on their side to “win” the argument, he decided to take a chance and honestly tell me what was going on. for him. Oh man, did I love him more? I also realized that he needed to cut her some slack, both in the moment and during similar discussions in the future. We rarely argue now, as we are both clear about what we need when we don’t know how to keep the peace.
2. “That must be hard. What can I do for you now?”
Have you ever seen this video called It’s not about the nail, in which a woman talks about how much pain she has in her head and how some days she doesn’t know if she can live with it anymore? The camera focuses and we see a nail sticking out of her forehead. Her well-meaning boyfriend points out that maybe if she removed the nail she would feel better. This doesn’t go well, as she gets angry at him for trying to solve her problem when she just wants him to listen to her. He does it and she is happy.
The next time your girlfriend is mad at you, listen to her. When you’re done speaking, acknowledge what you heard and empathize with the emotional turmoil you’re feeling. And then, without trying to fix her, ask her what you can do right now to make her happy. She may not know the answer, but she will appreciate empathy, which shows that you want to support her without fixing her. It will mean a lot to her and she will know that she is important to you.
3. “When I see you, my heart skips a beat.”
Women have grown up with romantic comedies, which are certainly not the best example of love in real life. But it is what it is, and there are certain things we hope our relationship has in abundance.
One of the most important is that your heart skips a beat when you see us. We love knowing that you feel a physical reaction (different from what you are thinking right now) that reminds you how much you love us. So if you want a woman to feel truly loved, tell her: when you get back together after being apart, your heart will feel full and happy.
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4. “You look sexy.”
I know. Nowadays, we are not supposed to emphasize superficial things like appearance. Intelligence, emotional IQ, happiness, and kindness are important parts of a woman’s makeup and things she wants her man to recognize her for. That being said, every woman wants to know that the man she loves thinks she is attractive. She wants to know that he watches her when he walks into her room, watching her walk around naked is the highlight of her day and making love to her rocks her world.
If you normally abstain from Telling your girlfriend that her physical appearance rocks your world, Don’t stop anymore! She needs to know it about you and telling her will help her understand how much she means to you.
5. “I’m sorry I hurt you. What can I do to make things right?”
Apologies are crucial in every relationship. They can make or break even someone happy, and yet they are often offered incorrectly. Here is an example of what I mean. A man comes home late from work. His boss kept him there later than he thought and he missed dinner with his family. His wife is furious. He says, “I’m sorry, but my boss kept me there and I thought you would understand.”
Any apology followed by a “but” immediately negates itself. The reality is that the reason his wife was angry was because she felt hurt. Not only did he not get home on time, but he also didn’t call her to tell her that she would be late or why. Instead, a good apology would be: “I’m sorry I hurt you. What can I do to make things right?”
The most important part of to apologize to someone is to acknowledge that you hurt them. Even if you feel like what you did was inevitable, you still hurt them. Recognizing it and taking ownership of it will diffuse the situation immediately. And when you let your partner tell you how to fix things, you can move on and move on to the fixing part, which is much more fun!
It’s important to use your words to let your girlfriend know how much you care about her. Dr. Gary Chapman The 5 love languages: the secret to lasting love posits how we all tend to give and receive love in one of five particular ways: quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, or acts of service. I think this idea is true, but that being said, most women need to hear you express your feelings. They need the words to come out of your mouth so they can let them penetrate their heart and brain.
And don’t forget the most important of all things to say to a woman: “I love you.” I know you might think she knows it, but she still likes hearing it from you, every day. So, go ahead. Use your words and let your girlfriend know that she is definitely the one for you!
Mitzi Bockmann is a certified life coach and mental health advocate based in New York City who works exclusively with women to help them be everything they want to be. Mitzi’s bylines have appeared on The Good Men Project, MSN, PopSugar, Prevention, Huffington Post, and Psych Central, among many others.